Boundaries

As much as we all love our children sometimes it just seems they are trying their best to control us. They act as if they have free reign of our time, energies, monies, homes and possessions.
I am not sure if it is that we have encouraged the entitlement theology with our wanting them to have everything we did not. Their demands or requests which ever way they have learned works, have just seemed to take control of our beings.

Once you give them any of this it is so hard to say no in the future and believe me there comes a time when you must find the guts to say no. It will eventually come down to their wants over your needs and then it is all over because you are mean, don't understand and you are dealing with that 2 year old temper tantrum that is not quite as endearing as it was 30 + years ago.

If you were lucky enough to set the boundaries when they were two and keep them up as they age you are lucky enough and not dealing with this issues now.
If not there is a book you need to read called: Boundaries by Dr Henry Cloud. Ask for it for Christmas if not before.
It can put perspective in your life dealing with family, friends and others who demand of you. Remember it is not always obvious that they are demanding sometime they have learned how to expect and get without asking.